Surviving the Storm (Part Two): How I Used a Natural Lifestyle to Heal Through Three Years of Trauma

Over the last three years, I found myself fighting for something I truly believed in - a battle that often felt isolating, exhausting, and never-ending. It pushed me to the brink physically and emotionally, forcing me to dig deep within myself to stay resilient. As I navigated through this storm, I realized I needed more than just the strength of my convictions - I needed to protect my mental and physical health. That’s when I turned to a natural lifestyle to help me manage the intense stress and maintain my sense of self through it all.

When I say these years were challenging, I’m not just talking about sleepless nights or a few bumps along the way. I’m talking about moments of complete depletion, where I had to find a way to keep showing up for myself and my daughter, Emma, day after day. If you’re navigating your own battles - whether it’s advocating for your beliefs, dealing with conflict, or just trying to keep your head above water - I hope sharing these practices will provide you with some inspiration, or at the very least, remind you that you’re not alone.

Here’s how I supported myself naturally during those difficult years:

1. Building My Tribe: Coaches, Therapists, Doctors, and Family

I knew from the start that I couldn’t do this alone. So, I sought out a professional coach who guided me through the emotional rollercoaster, helping me set boundaries and refocus whenever I felt overwhelmed by the weight of it all. Working with a therapist was equally invaluable; it gave me a safe space to explore the complex emotions I faced - anger, fear, sadness - without judgment.

I had the privilege of working with a highly experienced, retired medical professional whose expertise deeply aligned with trauma recovery. Their extensive background in supporting individuals through difficult and painful experiences provided me with invaluable insight and guidance. Through our work together, I gained a deeper understanding of the long-lasting effects of trauma on both the mind and body, as well as effective strategies for moving forward in a healthier, more empowered way. Their knowledge and compassionate approach were instrumental in my path to healing.

My naturopathic doctor played a crucial role in helping me find natural remedies and supplements tailored to my needs, focusing on restoring balance to my body. Visits to my chiropractor alleviated physical tension and discomfort, which was essential during such a stressful time. Additionally, incorporating massage therapy into my routine provided me with much-needed relaxation and relief from the stress I was carrying. These holistic approaches complemented my lifestyle changes, contributing significantly to my overall well-being.

But it wasn’t just professionals who got me through. It was the unwavering support of close friends and family who stood by me, listened to me vent, and reminded me of my strength when I felt like I had none left. These were the people who celebrated my small victories, reassured me when I stumbled, and saw the light in me when I struggled to see it myself.

2. Finding Healing in Nature

Nature became my place of refuge when everything else felt overwhelming. There’s something deeply grounding about the stillness of the woods or the gentle lapping of waves on a lakeshore. Taking long walks along forest trails or simply sitting in my backyard, feeling the breeze on my face, provided a sense of calm that I desperately needed to recharge and face the ongoing challenges.

The power of sunlight was also a natural healer. There were days when I felt too drained to leave my bed, but I’d force myself to get outside, even if just for a few minutes. Feeling the sun’s warmth on my skin became a daily ritual that reminded me life was still happening around me, even when my world felt heavy.

3. Movement and Exercise to Release Tension

When I couldn’t find the words to express what I was feeling, I turned to movement. Walking and hiking became a way to release the pent-up anxiety, each step helping me sort through the thoughts swirling in my mind. I started playing soccer and volleyball on a team again, which became a powerful outlet for releasing stress.

It wasn’t about achieving a fitness goal. It was about finding a way to release energy that had nowhere else to go. Every time I moved, it was like peeling off a layer of heaviness and stress. It didn’t fix everything, but it helped me feel more like myself.

4. Incorporate Spiritual Healing Practices: Reiki and Huna Therapy

Incorporating spiritual practices like Reiki and Huna Therapy played a crucial role in my healing journey. Reiki helped release emotional blockages and promoted deep relaxation and lasting emotional healing. Huna, rooted in Hawaiin widsom, taught me to reconnect with my higher self, releasing the weight of trauma and reclaiming inner strength.

Together, Reiki and Huna supported my overall healing, working in harmony with other lifestyle changes to nourish body, mind and spirit.

5. Daily Meditation and Prayer for Mental Clarity

Staying connected to my centre became a priority as I navigated these challenges. Starting each day with a few minutes of meditation helped me quiet my mind and prepare for whatever lay ahead. It didn’t always come easily, but I committed to the practice because it was a way to reset my emotions and gain some mental clarity.

I also turned to prayer. I can’t tell you how many nights I found myself on my knees, pouring out my worries and fears, asking for strength and guidance. Those moments gave me a sense of comfort and helped me remember that there was a bigger picture beyond the immediate stress I was experiencing.

6. The Healing Power of Hugs and Quality Time with Emma

Sometimes, the best therapy came in the form of a hug from someone I loved. I can’t count the number of times I hugged Emma a little tighter or a little longer when everything else felt too much. Our time together - whether we were laughing, playing, or simply cuddling - was a precious reminder of what truly mattered. Emma’s presence and love kept me grounded and gave me the strength to keep going.

The joy of being with her helped counterbalance the stress I was dealing with. Even on my hardest days, spending time with her could turn everything around, giving me a renewed sense of purpose and a reminder of why I was standing firm in my beliefs.

7. Writing My Heart Out

When speaking up felt too daunting, I turned to journaling. It became my private sanctuary where I could vent, process my emotions, and find a release. Pouring my heart onto paper, capturing the highs and lows of my journey, became a way to let go of the heaviness I often carried.

Now, when I look back at those entries, I see a record of my resilience and strength. They remind me of the battles I’ve faced, the victories I’ve won, and how far I’ve come.

8. Gratitude Practice to Shift My Focus

In the midst of fighting for what I believed in, it was easy to get caught up in all that was going wrong. To keep myself from spiralling, I started a daily gratitude practice. Each night, I’d write down three things I was thankful for that day, no matter how small.

Some days, it was the simple joy of a cup of tea or a smile from a stranger. Other days, it was a breakthrough in my advocacy journey or an unexpected moment of peace. This practice didn’t eliminate the stress, but it shifted my focus to what was still beautiful and good in my life, even amidst the turmoil.

9. Trusting Myself and My Purpose

There were countless moments where I questioned if I should just give up. It would’ve been so much easier to let go and stop advocating. But deep down, I knew that staying true to my beliefs would ultimately bring me peace. Holding onto that inner faith gave me the courage to keep going, even when the path felt impossible.

Trusting myself, believing in my purpose, and knowing I was doing the right thing helped me weather this storm. Today, I’m proud of how far I’ve come - not just because I survived those three years, but because I stayed true to who I am, even when it was the hardest thing to do.

Moving Forward, Stronger Than Ever

I’m sharing my story in the hope that it resonates with someone out there facing their own storm. Advocating for what you believe in is never easy, but taking care of yourself - physically, mentally, and spiritually - is essential. Lean on those who support you, find joy in the small things, and above all, hold onto your inner strength.

Cheers,

Alexis Tanner, RHN

The Nutritionist Mama

*Disclaimer - this is my own personal experience and not medical advice.